LAF Disclaimer: I know there have been many posts on this these past few weeks. As #u30pro co-founder, I felt the need to articulate my thoughts, as many have asked me to.
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Age isn’t an indicator of executing awesome. Words to live by, right?
Only if you deserve to live by them.
As Gen Y, we go through what Gen X and even Boomers went through – proving our worth. The problem is, along the way with bumper stickers proclaiming we were ‘A Honor Roll Superstars’, some forgot to add in the personal responsibility that we have to carry ourselves/actions beyond our years.
You can’t ask for respect, to be taken seriously and more responsibility if you are putting yourself out there far from professionally. Privacy is a concept that many believe they have, but don’t realize that the information put out there is being judged on by potential employers. It doesn’t matter if they want to hire you now or 10 years down the road. The internet is like an ex-boyfriend – they never forget the bad, but they forget the good in a blink of an eye.
After that? Age isn’t an indicator, and you’re not asked. On the other side of the coin, years of experience doesn’t mean someone is better, but it does mean you can learn from them.
It’s up to you whether it is a.) something you will never do/improve on, or b.) something you can learn from (positive or negative.) The problem with Gen Y is that they believe they don’t need years of experience and are entitled to instant gratification. It doesn’t work.
The Internet is Your Classroom
Gen Y is a generation that grew up on the computer. This isn’t a new revelation. Having access to technology has made it even harder for many to network in person. Learn to leverage networks so youre comfdortable, but battle through hang-ups to make face to face meetings happen. The thing is, that air of maturity and making your intent known will get you farther.
How many articles do you read on a daily basis? How many professionals do you reach out to, just to ask questions? Yes, it’s easy to be inclusive and only talk to a select group. Have mentors. But from that foundation, how you do build? Do you ask them to help connect you with individuals you can also learn from?
Sure, you need to build relationships first, and you won’t always hear yes. Be aware that ‘no’ is an indication they are busy, not an indication that they hate you and your generation. Positioning yourself as a sponge, and someone who wants to learn on a daily basis is a much easier avenue than you just want to get something out of a person. Be confident, not selfish. Be a student. not a debater – unless you have a solid relationship that allows you to question. Evaluate the situation before making a move.
Being Confident Isn’t Cocky
“Confidence is having the courage to walk up to a stranger and say hello. Cocky is thinking said person should be grateful.”
The fine line of being humble while knowledgeable in your ability, instead of coming across as the “I’m Better than You Mentality” is a struggle because many don’t believe there is a line. They think snarky comments said on Twitter is cute and that people will realize it’s just an act. The thing is, Google is a first impression.
Type in your name and see what pops up. As a society, we are judgmental. We decide usually within a few seconds if we like a person – or if their qualities are one we can agree with. Cockiness is an immaturity tactic and a coping mechanism. Declaring that you’re better than someone else (even when proven) leaves a bitter taste that isn’t erased easily.
That pedastool will eventually be knocked out from under you.
It shouldn’t be stated that you have to work hard. Nothing is ever given to you. You don’t get a cookie every time something is accomplished. You have to put in the hours and believe in yourself before someone believes in you.
