The Twenty-Somethings Survival Guide

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**Picture taken during my time in publicity for a movie studio. The radio promos are fun, even if you get chased by a guy with a chainsaw outside a haunted house.

Perception is everything. Those that seem to have it all together have the same war stories that everyone else does. It’s about how they deal with it. How they laugh at themselves. How they keep rocking it on a daily basis. Mistakes and obstacles are what shape you. Being human (what? the same thing we tell clients?) will help people relate to you. It’s lonely on that pedestal you built for yourself.

My “Laura moments” make me real.

Now that I am a few months past my 25th birthday, I obviously feel compelled to share my completely un-scientific approach to making it through your 20s – professionally and personally.

Disclaimer: These tips are based on actual events. Is this where I apologize to my parents?

  1. Yes, sometimes your breakfast is dinner and dinner could have been sour gummy worms last night. Everyone else envies you.
  2. Fist pumping is only tolerated because of our society’s insane fascination with Jersey Shore. If you must do it in front of the agency head, make sure to throw in a “That’s What She Said.”
  3. Be nice to your exes. It’s quite possible that you’ll pitch the New York Times someday and the lifestyles reporter is said ex. That you made cry at a journalism workshop in college.
  4. Having a type of sweet treat on your desk is the easiest way to make yourself feel popular in the office.
  5. Showing off your sick dance moves with instant dance parties are only acceptable if other people see you/join in.
  6. Having a negative bank account balance is not an excuse for accepting a date for that night you never would have otherwise. No, you still can’t afford lunch.
  7. If you’re going to attempt a cartwheel in Wal-Mart, make sure no one else is around. Broken noses caused by your Chuck Norris legs aren’t appreciated.
  8. It’s always best to pick up the phone when your parents call. If you don’t, they will assume the worst and missing persons might stalk you.
  9. You might make fun of someone for having too many pens, but you’ll curse yourself when you don’t have one in a meeting.
  10. Make sure you tell a guy up front that the free drink he bought you is for your boyfriend/date.
  11. You will spend most HHs explaining to your friends what public relations and social media actually are. Hand gestures, drawings and exasperated sighs will frequent the conversation.
  12. Calling your client ‘Mom’ a la the kindergarten teacher moment is not an effective team-building skill.
  13. Yes, it is possible to run in 4 inch heels. If you fall, keep going. If you rip your pants, they created safety pins for a reason. This is why you are bff with the receptionist. She’ll (literally) save your butt.
  14. It’s ok to get up and go to the bathroom in a client meeting. It will help you avoid the weird side looks from said client.
  15. If you go to tradeshows, bring at least 50 band-aids. Or break in your shoes beforehand. Or pray to God that you come back a boy in your next life and can wear flat shoes.
  16. Inside jokes are only funny if the other person remembers what you are talking about.
  17. If you had a bad day at work, dancing around Risky Business style is perfectly fine – unless your blinds are open and your neighbor texts you with amazement.
  18. You never know when a new business-related opportunity pops up. Don’t be afraid to go for it and try out new ventures.
  19. The people that will laugh right alongside you are your true friends. Catty, snarky women come and go.

What would you add? How do you survive your 20s and beyond? How do you stay human?

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  • rinnis85
    Im mad at #6
  • janetaronica
    hehe this is all really funny... we have much in common... #runninginhighheels...

    I love my 20's. My way of enjoying them: Work hard and learn all you can and enjoy exactly where you are at this moment. There's a lot of uncertainty in your 20's... maybe not a stable relationship while you're dating... maybe not a ton of money... maybe not the awesomest apartment... maybe sometimes your job is filled with a lot of entry-level grunt work and you don't know how that is progressing you ahead. But if you can just learn to enjoy all of that while it's going on and take things with a sense of humor you'll see how much fun this all is. Because one day you'll have a granite countertop and a real sofa and a house and a husband and real money but your life won't be as spontaneous and interesting. :)
  • Kimberly Ciesla
    What a GREAT post! Very entertaining. Thanks for sharing!
  • laurenfernandez
    Thank you - and thanks for stopping by! Glad you loved it.
  • Denver PR Pro
    Along with #11: Yes, you will spend most Happy Hours trying to explain what PR is. Given that, avoid trying to explain what PR is to your bank officer boyfriend. He will may, or may not, tell you that you don't have a real job.

    Another: If you're an intern, drinking too much at company events is NOT advised. Neither is making out with your boss. (I've seen that happen more than once.)

    Haha! Love this post!
  • laurenfernandez
    Haha, my ex used to tell me I didn't have real job either! He'd quip, "So how did you pretend to work today? Do you play Lemmings all day?" So mean.

    Great point on the intern and the company event.
  • Babbs
    LAUREN. This is my favorite blog post you've ever written. Just FYI.
  • laurenfernandez
    Thanks, doll!
  • stylecurrent
    Love this Lauren!

    Might I add:
    If you make a mess, clean it up. Applies to everything: your kitchen, your job, your relationship.
  • laurenfernandez
    So very true. Thanks Ash!
  • Kaitlyn Michaelis
    As a PR girl I totally empathized with the band-aids at trade shows and trying to explain what Public Relations is. I would add:
    "Whenever you're doing business out of town, try to make friends with everyone you can. You never know when you won't be able to find seating at any restaurants in downtown New Orleans on a Saturday night, and the local photographer you hired for the day wants to help you out!"
  • laurenfernandez
    I've learned this in my time attending conferences/speaking. Also, it made my move to a different state much easier!
  • Kristin Gast
    Love this. I'm turning 25 in two months and have been trying to figure out how to commemorate it. I think I'll do a similar post with my life lessons learned in the first five years of my twenties ;)

    Totally agree with #15. I also like to bring a pedometer. It feels good to look down at the end of the day and say, man, these shoes can handle 16 miles!
  • laurenfernandez
    Haha, love the pedometer. I can't wait to see your list!
  • Amanda Oleson
    I'd add "Never burn your bridges, because you don't know when you'll need to cross them again." (Yes, my mom has said this to me for years.) In the same way that your ex might end up working for NYT, that "horrible roommate from hell" you had in years past may have connections and opportunities for you in the future. (Of course, it's not just awful roommates that may end up coming in handy- it's everyone.)
  • laurenfernandez
    So true, and it's one that has made me fear ever being mean to someone.
  • Ashley Carter
    Two tips:
    1. There's nothing a bottle (or box) for cheap wine can't fix!
    2. Always schedule one night of "nothing" a week to re-charge your batteries. It's amazing how refreshed you will feel the next morning.
  • laurenfernandez
    Love #1. That is a phenom outlook on life AC. :)
  • Katie Morse
    My recent favorite: never be afraid to start an impromptu dance party.

    My 2nd favorite: steal every possible moment you can for quality "me, my family and my friends" time - that time is precious!
  • laurenfernandez
    dance dance dance! :)
  • Mac Slavin
    I'm just starting my 20's, but living as an intern I learned that you really don't need power in your apartment for the month of July as long as you have a cooler (make-shift fridge), hot water (living in an apartment complex) and can steal the neighbor's wireless...
  • laurenfernandez
    Haha, that is priceless! Thanks for stopping by Mac.
  • David Lurie
    What's an HH?
  • Zach Woodward
    Happy Hour :)
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